Pain with Love, and Love with Pain.

So much pain in the world. Of course, as a social worker, I am taught to acknowledge the pain, but always lead with the positive. Lead with the strengths, the lessons to learn, the positives throughout all the negatives. But that pain is still there. It's caused by uncontrollable factors in the world. Parents who … Continue reading Pain with Love, and Love with Pain.

The living dead.

The living dead. How is it that someone who has been gone over three years somehow is still present in my life? How can they continue to enter into my thoughts? Why do I continue to ask her questions, when I know I won't receive a response? How are you still so present? Why do … Continue reading The living dead.

Asphyxiation

Suffocation. Do you know the feeling of loss? It's the feeling of your throat closing up. Breathing is difficult. You begin to suffocate, as if the world without them no longer has oxygen. How am I supposed to breath without them? They were my oxygen. My reason for living. The person I turned to for … Continue reading Asphyxiation

“The Next Right Thing”

Spoiler alert: If you have not seen Frozen II, then read at your own risk. ... I want to applaud Disney for touching on one of the hardest topics in the most realistic way... the loss of someone you love and what grief feels like. The song "The Next Right Thing" takes on the challenge … Continue reading “The Next Right Thing”

Dissipate the Darkness

It's crazy how death and loss creates a wound. One that never fully heals. And like any wound can reopen at any moment. These awful moments in our life. The moments you used to think "that would never happen to me." But when it does you are shocked. The worst moments of our lives. When … Continue reading Dissipate the Darkness

When plans don’t work out…

I just wanted to say thank you to everyone for the constant love and support. I receive all your messages, comments, and likes with a smile. They truly brighten my day. ❤ I want to reach out to those who are finding their way along the journey of life. I am the queen of having … Continue reading When plans don’t work out…

Trauma in Action

Let's talk about trauma. Many people have experienced some form of trauma in their life, minor or major.  It can range from losing your childhood pet to grieving for the loss of an immediate family member. It could be having a sibling go through an armed robbery (secondary trauma) to yourself actually experiencing it. It … Continue reading Trauma in Action

Without them

It's like a ticking time bomb. One minute you are in the present. The next you are thrown into a memory. Not by choice. And you leave the present to be there. To experience it as if it is all that exists. It replays. It must have been triggered by something? Or maybe not? It … Continue reading Without them

The Battle of Loss

Let's talk about loss. Any type of loss - from losing someone you love, to a break-up, to not getting the results that you have wanted, from striving for something but not achieving it. --- Loss. The devastation. Loss is the failure of what we imagined our future to be. It is us realizing that … Continue reading The Battle of Loss

To choose love

What do we all deserve and need in a relationship? Acceptance. The other must look at you and see the amazing qualities you have. And see you for your faults. And with those faults, they must accept. Not try to change or improve. They must look at ALL of you.  The good AND the bad. … Continue reading To choose love